How Talking About Your Emotions Helps You Move Past Trauma

The following is adapted from Free for Life.

I’ve worked with countless individuals through my coaching practice to improve their health and wellness, and there’s one shared truth I’ve recognized that applies to all people: you can’t be healthy if you haven’t emotionally addressed the stress caused by trauma from your past.

Stress wreaks havoc on our bodies by causing chronic pain and tension, especially when we keep it bottled up inside. By talking about our experiences and making ourselves emotionally vulnerable, we can expel and reduce the amount of stress we carry inside.

In this article, I’ll explain how I use a verbal-based approach to help my clients move past their trauma and live stress-free lives.

Talking Through Emotional and Physical Pain

In my coaching practice, I use a verbal-based energetic system I call Body of Light to help people reintegrate and locate the energies, consciousness, and projections that keep their bodies, brains, and nervous systems out of alignment. That includes the negative thoughts that drain our energy and optimism, the fears and doubts that keep us from pursuing our goals, and the lies we believe about ourselves and our world that hurt our confidence and sense of self-worth.

During these types of sessions, people sit across from me and repeat, word-for-word, the directions I give them to direct the body, brain, and nervous system with specific commands. This verbal approach is a way to process and move beyond traumatic experiences that continue to haunt us. Talking through our pain can neutralize the harmful thoughts and emotions that keep stress trapped inside our bodies.

Many people discount the value of words because we can’t see the effect they have on our bodies and minds, but they hold great restorative power. Sometimes, simply talking through our experiences can release the negative energies associated with them.

Tapping into the Power of Words

Words hold the power to transmute negative thoughts into positive lessons. They can create or destroy our emotions and beliefs by changing the way we think about a given experience.

For example, one of my clients is an older woman who came to me for help with chronic pain. She revealed she had repeatedly been the victim of unfathomable abuse and sexual assault as a child. Before she was nineteen, several people close to her and with the duty to protect her had betrayed her in intense, life-altering ways. All this trauma was shutting down her energetic, emotional, and physical bodies.

We sat down together, and we talked about her experiences. Energetically, talking about her trauma helped us locate the source of her pain and transmute those energies back into loving kindness and compassion. Within a few days, she was contacted by three of her assaulters, who begged her for forgiveness. And she forgave them. That was the beginning of her reintegration and re-personalization process, which would allow her to move past her trauma.

Time and time again, I have seen talking about emotions and trauma transform the negative energies associated with our pain and free people from the stress produced by the original event.

When the woman came in for her second session, she was ready to move on to stretching and body work to further address her pain. Without doing the Body of Light first, physical touch of any kind would have only made her feel and relive the stress and degradation of her traumatic experiences.

By opening up about traumatic experiences and talking about emotions, you can free the stress causing pain in your body and put yourself in the right mental state to take the next step in addressing your challenges.

For more advice on stress relief, check out my book, Free for Life.


Christopher Lee Maher is a former Navy SEAL who endured intense amounts of physical, mental, and emotional stress during and after his military career. He has taught himself how to free his body, mind and emotions from pain by developing the emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual aspects of being. Christopher studied Traditional Chinese Medical Practices at the Pacific College of Oriental Medicine and at Yo San University, then continued his studies at The Universal Healing Tao System. He is a student of Grand Master Mantak Chia at the Universal Tao Master School in Chiang Mai, Thailand, and is currently pursuing his Master’s and Doctorate degrees in Traditional Chinese Medicine.

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